Mindy Obenhaus
Where is Your Focus?
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God is so good.

He truly is.

Standing at the kitchen sink today, up to my elbows in soapy dishwater, I stared out at the rain, suddenly and overwhelmingly struck by His graciousness. It was a humbling moment because, so often, I fail to consider all that God has done for me.

Instead, I focus on me, complaining when things don’t go my way or focusing on the bad, even when that one small imperfection is surrounded by massive amounts of good.

Why do I do that?

Because of me.

Seriously, at those times it is all about me.

And therein lies the problem.

Life isn’t about me. Not today, not ever. It’s about Him. Jesus. And just like Peter who dared to walk on water, when we take our eyes off of God, we’re pulled under by the waves of discontent, discord and despair.

Yes, this world is wrought with struggles and strife. Yet even in the midst of our greatest storms, there’s always hope. If we would only look up.Now it’s your turn.

How do you stay focused on God? Or are you like me and often make things all about you? How do you stay focused on the good things in life instead of dwelling on the bad as so many are prone to do?

What’s Happening
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What a summer this has been. Birthdays, deadlines and a book release were just some of the highlights. But, when deadlines are involved, nothing can slow you down.deadlines, parties and RWA

 Good news, though. Book four has been turned in. And just in time, because next on my agenda was Romance Writers of America’s annual conference in New York City. Talk about exciting. I’d never been to New York before, so to be smack dab in the middle of Times Square was an amazing experience.Times Square4

While there, I was privileged to participate in a Harlequin book signing, where I signed my brand new release, A Father’s Second Chance.Harlequin signing

The highpoint of any conference, though, is getting to hang out with writer friends.

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Authors Lisa Jordan and Susan May Warren

However, the best, if not the most humbling, news of the summer may have been this.

2015Carol Award finalistI learned that my second book, Rescuing the Texan’s Heart, is a finalist in American Christian Fiction Writers Carol Award contest. What an honor. And to be grouped with authors Irene Hannon (who just won her third RWA Rita award) and Naomi Rawlings makes me feel doubly blessed.

Winners will be announced at ACFW’s annual conference in September.

But until then, the dog days of summer, along with their triple digit temperatures, are upon us. And I can’t think of a better way to combat them than to settle in with some new characters and get started on another story set in Ouray.

Now it’s your turn. I want to hear about your summer. What’s going on in your world?

Finding The Balance in Today’s Busy World – Tips to Navigate the Buffet Line of Life
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Ever feel overwhelmed? Like if one thing more gets dumped on your plate you might lose it?

You’re not alone. No matter what phase of life you find yourself in, finding the balance in today’s busy world can be a challenge.

From the first-time mom struggling to balance her attention between the newborn that needs her and the husband who suddenly feels neglected to the empty-nester who was looking forward to her freedom, only to find herself caring for an aging parent.

At this point in my life, I have three adult daughters, five grandkids, and two teenage boys. The latter of which are determined to eat me out of house and home. Then there’s my elderly mother. She still lives on her own, but requires my assistance as chauffeur, shopper, and care-taker.

Yes, life is definitely a balance. But, like our diet, it can be managed.

Here are a few tips to help you navigate the buffet of life:

    • Pray – This is first and foremost. You can do it anywhere, anytime. Ask God to guide your choices. Tell Him your struggles. After all, He already knows.
  • Prioritize – The baby’s doctor appointment and the parent/teacher conference can’t be put off, but maybe the laundry can wait until tomorrow. Make a list of those things that HAVE to be done. If your family is in danger of going to work/school naked the next day then, yes, laundry can go on the have-to list. But do yourself a favor, only wash exactly what they’ll need for the next day and do the rest when your time isn’t at a premium (I know, it’s always at a premium, but work with me here). **Note: If you are one of those uber organized people who stays on top of their laundry, I applaud you. Please feel free to ignore the aforementioned comments about laundry.


  • Learn to say NO – I love PTA, but it can be one of those things that once you get your foot in the door, they grab you by the ankle, knock you down, and drag you into their lair. Before you know it, they’ve sucked the joy of serving right out of you. And without that joy, what good are you doing to anyone. I hate to say it, but the same holds true for teaching Sunday School and VBS. Don’t let someone guilt you into doing something God never intended you to do.


  • Find time for you – Okay, this one is the hardest of all. Especially if you’re chasing toddlers all day and you barely have time to use the bathroom. Wake up thirty minutes early, sit in your favorite chair, alone, and enjoy your coffee/tea in peace. Or maybe at naptime, whenever you can slink away from the chaos. Once the kids are down for the night, put hubby on-call and treat yourself to a bubble bath. How can you carve out ten minutes of your day just for you?



Is your world a little caddywampus? What steps can you take to find your balance?